Unrealistic expectations are part and parcel of almost every holiday.  The season brings an atmosphere of joy, peace, and hope, mixed with the reality of personal pressures, imperfect relationships and added responsibilities. This combination can form a “perfect storm” of unrealistic expectations.  Left unchecked that storm can turn any celebration sour.

 

If you’re feeling the holiday pressure, here are some mindful tools and tips to bring some balance back.

 

1)      Begin each day with taking care of yourself. 

Take a few minutes in the morning to establish some realistic intentions for yourself and the tasks at hand. Breathe deeply, relax the body. Tension is a thief that can rob you of the energy needed to have a productive day. At the end of the day, again spend some time reflecting on what you have accomplished and breathe deeply to relax the body. 

 

2)      Keep a routine that supports needed sleep, healthy eating and exercise.

Stress during the holidays will take a toll on the body.  Couple that with winter weather, you can get rundown and sick quickly.  Make sure you are pacing yourself and finding time to rest.  It will also be important to watch what you put on your plate as well as create opportunities to be active.  One idea is to go for a walk and catch up with a loved one.

 

3)      Accept the fact that pleasing everyone is an impossible dream. 

Instead focus on clearly communicating the what, when and where of get-togethers and traditions, and work to be inclusive while setting boundaries for yourself. The goal here is to create opportunities for others to join in what is planned, given their circumstances. 

 

4)      Don’t get caught up in overbuying.

American shoppers spend an average of $712 each on Christmas presents, according to a recent Gallup poll.  While giving is often a part of the holiday season, don’t let it become THE WHOLE FOCUS.  Gift giving can be done through the drawing of names, opening gifts together and setting a limit on costs. Fond memories of gift giving are born from feelings of connection, being included and sharing in a meaningful experience.  The greatest gifts of the season, come from the spirit of giving from the heart, not the charge card.

 

A holiday that is relaxing and enjoyable starts by connecting with ourselves, engaging those we care about and including them in the possibilities that lie ahead. To make the most out of our time with family & friends, we need to know how to manage the pressure that comes with this time of year.  Remember that staying focused on the experience more than the “stuff” as well as having realistic expectations goes a long way to making the holidays special and more memorable.

 

Have a Happy Holidays from Anthem EAP!